- Self-motivation is a limited resource. I’ve learned that relying on self-motivation and self-discipline to achieve goals can be challenging, especially without a clear structure or external pressures. I’ve had to shift my focus from extrinsic motivation to intrinsic motivation, and also realised the importance of designing my environment and creating systems to support my goals. Motivation is nice when it shows up but it can’t be relied upon.
- Everyone has a story. It’s easy to forget that we are just a supporting character in everyone else’s story. This year, I’ve made a special effort to learn more about my family’s past and the experiences that have shaped them. I’ve found that the time I spend with my family has been more valuable, and the conversations have been more meaningful. There have been a countless number of times this year where I have found myself surrounded by a sea of people and struck with a sense of sonder.
- More time doing, less time thinking. I’ve learned that my bias towards thinking more than doing can be a double-edged sword. In the past, I was all execution, but as a result, I made mistakes that could have been avoided with some strategic thinking. Now I’m more of a thinker, but I’ve also become slower and more indecisive. Finding the right balance is important, and for me, right now, I need to get back into execution mode.
- Don’t do things that make me unhappy. I’ve learned that it’s important to be aware of what makes me unhappy and to take action to avoid those things. While short-term pain may be necessary for long-term gain, it’s important to be mindful of where to draw the line.
- Who I’m with is just as important as where I’m going. This year, I’ve learned that the people I’m with are just as important as the places I’m going. I’ve had a lot of fun traveling this year, and it’s largely due to the people I’m with. Similarly, in a career context, the work I do is important but the people I work with are equally important.
- It’s time to double down. I’ve had the opportunity to explore a variety of interests and opportunities over the past 9 months. I think it’s been really good to go through this exploratory phase but I can’t do this forever. At some point, I need to pick something, go all in and burn the boats.
